{"id":712,"date":"2022-01-27T17:11:50","date_gmt":"2022-01-27T15:11:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=712"},"modified":"2022-01-27T17:11:51","modified_gmt":"2022-01-27T15:11:51","slug":"a-ierta-este-un-semn-de-slabiciune-sau-un-semn-de-putere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=712","title":{"rendered":"A ierta este un semn de sl\u0103biciune sau un semn de putere?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Fiecare dintre noi a trecut, la un moment dat, prin situa\u021bia de a ierta sau nu gre\u0219eala unei persoane apropiate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dup\u0103 ce trece durerea\/suferin\u021ba cauzat\u0103 de eroarea (gre\u0219eala) celui drag, dup\u0103 ce ne revenim din starea de \u0219oc \u0219i de dezam\u0103gire cauzat\u0103 de ceea ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, ce facem?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cei ascult\u0103m explica\u021bia celui drag nou\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103ut\u0103m \u00een sufletul nostru putere s\u0103 \u00eel iert\u0103m  sau \u00eel alung\u0103m din via\u021ba noastr\u0103 \u0219i nu mai vrem s\u0103 \u00eel mai vedem vreodat\u0103?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen care dintre situa\u021bii \u00eel iert\u0103m \u0219i \u00een care nu \u00eel iert\u0103m?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum analiz\u0103m situa\u021biile: cu mintea sau cu sufletul? Sub influen\u021ba consecin\u021belor gre\u0219elii sau dup\u0103 ce a mai trecut ceva timp de la situa\u021bia care ne-a r\u0103nit?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne este mai greu s\u0103 iert\u0103m persoane dragi sau persoane pe care abia le cunoa\u0219tem? Este mai greu s\u0103 iert\u0103m ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba personal\u0103 sau \u00een cea profesional\u0103? Sau \u00een cea social\u0103?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am mai scris despre iertare \u00eentr-un articol<\/a>, \u00een care d\u0103deam \u0219i defini\u021bia verbului a ierta din DEX.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Azi a\u0219 fi vrut s\u0103 m\u0103 l\u0103muresc dac\u0103 a ierta este o vulnerabilitate sau o putere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen urm\u0103 cu ceva ani a\u0219 fi zis, din start, c\u0103 a ierta este un semn de sl\u0103biciune, pentru c\u0103 nu acceptam gre\u0219elile celorlal\u021bi, pentru c\u0103 luam totul la modul personal, pentru c\u0103 eram prea serioas\u0103 \u0219i voiam s\u0103 fiu luat\u0103 \u00een serios.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acum a\u0219 nuan\u021ba lucrurile. Am fost surprins\u0103 anul trecut c\u00e2nd, dup\u0103 ce o persoan\u0103 s-a comportat ur\u00e2t cu mine \u0219i a vrut s\u0103 \u00eemi fac\u0103 r\u0103u, dup\u0103 ce s-au lini\u0219tit lucrurile \u0219i a g\u0103sit alte persoane cu care s\u0103 fac\u0103 acelea\u0219i lucruri \u0219i dup\u0103 ce mi-a trecut furia pe care o sim\u021beam fa\u021b\u0103 de persoana respectiv\u0103, spre sf\u00e2r\u0219itul anului, am constatat c\u0103 am g\u0103sit \u00een mine putere s\u0103 iert. \u0218i m-am sim\u021bit at\u00e2t de u\u0219oar\u0103, de liber\u0103 \u0219i de lini\u0219tit\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t m-am \u00eentrebat de ce nu am f\u0103cut acest lucru mai devreme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Experien\u021ba mea de anul trecut mi-a ar\u0103tat c\u0103, de\u0219i a ierta pare a fi o sl\u0103biciune, sentimentul de dup\u0103 ce treci emo\u021bional de situa\u021bia respectiv\u0103 este de eliberare. \u0218i merit\u0103. Nu mai e\u0219ti stresat, nu mai e\u0219ti \u00eencr\u00e2ncenat, nu mai e\u0219ti trist, nu mai e\u0219ti agitat. E\u0219ti doar lini\u0219tit. Po\u021bi s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi tr\u0103ie\u0219ti via\u021ba f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te mai la\u0219i influen\u021bat de resentimente \u0219i de nevoia de a te r\u0103zbuna sau de a pl\u0103ti cu aceea\u0219i moned\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219a c\u0103 eu am \u00eenceput s\u0103 \u00eei admir pe oamenii care au puterea s\u0103 ierte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu e u\u0219or s\u0103 ier\u021bi, dar, dac\u0103 reu\u0219e\u0219ti, devii un om mai bun \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi vei conduce singur via\u021ba.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Fiecare dintre noi a trecut, la un moment dat, prin situa\u021bia de a ierta sau nu gre\u0219eala unei persoane apropiate. Dup\u0103 ce trece durerea\/suferin\u021ba cauzat\u0103 de eroarea (gre\u0219eala) celui drag, …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/712"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=712"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/712\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":714,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/712\/revisions\/714"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=712"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=712"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=712"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}