{"id":547,"date":"2021-11-03T17:08:12","date_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:08:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=547"},"modified":"2021-11-03T17:08:13","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:08:13","slug":"despre-nevoia-de-validare-sau-confirmare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=547","title":{"rendered":"Despre nevoia de validare sau confirmare"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De ce avem nevoie de validare? De ce nu e de ajuns s\u0103 fim noi \u00een\u0219ine \u0219i at\u00e2t? Cu bune, cu rele, cu calit\u0103\u021bi \u0219i defecte, dar noi \u00een\u0219ine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218tiu c\u0103 e greu, \u00een societatea de azi, dominat\u0103 de superficialitate, s\u0103 fim deschi\u0219i, vulnerabili, direc\u021bi \u0219i sinceri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eu cred c\u0103, dac\u0103 vom \u00eencerca s\u0103 fim altfel de dragul accept\u0103rii noastre de c\u0103tre societate, vom ajunge, la un moment dat, la un conflict interior at\u00e2t de puternic \u00eenc\u00e2t vom da \u00een depresie sau \u00een alte lucruri la fel de grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218tiu c\u0103 e greu s\u0103 fim imperfec\u021bi \u00eentr-o lume perfect\u0103 (sau care se crede perfect\u0103) cum este cea de azi, dar trebuie s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 p\u0103str\u0103m o parte din noi, din ceea ce suntem noi, pentru a nu ne pierde pe noi \u00een\u0219ine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218tiu c\u0103 e greu, \u00een ziua de azi, c\u00e2nd emisiunile la radio \u0219i tv se fac doar \u00een baza comentariilor oamenilor (cu ocazia aceasta se verific\u0103 \u0219i audien\u021bele, nu?), c\u00e2nd vedetele online se nasc din num\u0103rul de persoane care \u00eei urm\u0103resc \u0219i comentariile l\u0103sate de acestea, e greu s\u0103 nu avem nevoie de confirm\u0103ri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar revin la ce am scris \u0219i \u00een alte articole: hai s\u0103 avem propriile noastre dorin\u021be, nu ale celorlal\u021bi, hai s\u0103 facem ce ne place nou\u0103 (nu ce place celorlal\u021bi), hai s\u0103 ne d\u0103m noi validare nou\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 nu mai cerem altora s\u0103 ne valideze ca persoane (pe orice plan am crede noi c\u0103 avem nevoie de validare: personal sau profesional).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ar trebui s\u0103 ne conducem noi via\u021ba dup\u0103 cum consider\u0103m noi c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 fie, nu dup\u0103 cum ne dicteaz\u0103 frustr\u0103rile \u0219i ne\u00eemplinirile unora sau superficialitatea \u0219i falsitatea altora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Via\u021ba noastr\u0103 e doar a noastr\u0103, nu a \u00eentregii societ\u0103\u021bi, iar noi suntem singurii care putem stabili \u00eencotro o lu\u0103m \u0219i spre ce ne \u00eendrept\u0103m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Realizez c\u0103 e complicat, \u00een lumea de azi, cu at\u00e2ta expunere de tot felul pe toate canalele media, s\u0103 reu\u0219im s\u0103 afl\u0103m ce ne dorim noi cu adev\u0103rat, nu ce ne arat\u0103 al\u021bii c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 ne dorim sau cum ne sugereaz\u0103 unii s\u0103 ne tr\u0103im via\u021ba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Poate c\u0103 tocmai aceast\u0103 expunere este de vin\u0103 pentru nevoia noastr\u0103 de validare. Adic\u0103 avem nevoie \u0219i noi de ceea ce au al\u021bii, pentru c\u0103 astfel facem parte din comunitate (suntem valida\u021bi ca membrii ai societ\u0103\u021bii?).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Poate c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 ne mai g\u00e2ndim, uneori, la lucrurile pe care ar trebui s\u0103 le facem pentru a fi confirma\u021bi de ceilal\u021bi \u0219i la ce renun\u021b\u0103m pentru aceast\u0103 validare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E complicat, e adev\u0103rat, ca, \u00eentr-o societate care \u00ee\u021bi dicteaz\u0103 cum s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi tr\u0103ie\u0219ti via\u021ba, s\u0103 ai putere s\u0103 fi altfel, s\u0103 fi tu \u00eensu\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar dac\u0103 tot nu putem s\u0103 facem acest lucru tot timpul, ar trebui ca, cel pu\u021bin, uneori s\u0103 nu ne mai conform\u0103m sau s\u0103 nu mai c\u0103ut\u0103m valid\u0103ri, ci s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 fim noi \u00een\u0219ine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ca s\u0103 nu ne pierdem identitatea.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>De ce avem nevoie de validare? De ce nu e de ajuns s\u0103 fim noi \u00een\u0219ine \u0219i at\u00e2t? Cu bune, cu rele, cu calit\u0103\u021bi \u0219i defecte, dar noi \u00een\u0219ine. \u0218tiu &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/547"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=547"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/547\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":548,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/547\/revisions\/548"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=547"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=547"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=547"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}