{"id":3753,"date":"2026-05-06T18:33:41","date_gmt":"2026-05-06T15:33:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=3753"},"modified":"2026-05-06T18:33:41","modified_gmt":"2026-05-06T15:33:41","slug":"de-ce-nu-avem-curajul-sa-traim-asa-cum-vrem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=3753","title":{"rendered":"De ce nu avem curajul s\u0103 tr\u0103im a\u0219a cum vrem?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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\u00cen societatea de ast\u0103zi, sim\u021bim nevoia s\u0103 trecem prin anumite etape \u0219i s\u0103 ne valid\u0103m ca persoane. De multe ori, aceste lucruri \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103im altfel dec\u00e2t ne-am dori (ne-ar pl\u0103cea?). \u0218i m-am trezit \u00eentreb\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 de ce nu avem curajul de a tr\u0103i a\u0219a cum vren. Am mai scris un articol asem\u0103n\u0103tor (de ce nu avem curajul s\u0103 tr\u0103im? – https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1709<\/a>) la 30 mai 2023, dar, de data aceasta plusez \u0219i m\u0103 refer la a ne construi via\u021ba a\u0219a cum vrem, nu a\u0219a cum ne impun al\u021bii sau cum vor al\u021bii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este mai u\u0219or de spus dec\u00e2t de f\u0103cut acest lucru. To\u021bi avem tot felul de obliga\u021bii, avem oameni dragi \u0219i situa\u021bii care ne influen\u021beaz\u0103 s\u0103 facem lucrurile altfel dec\u00e2t ne-am dori. Sunt de acord cu acest lucru. Este perfect valabil. \u0218i totu\u0219i, de multe ori, depinde doar de noi ca s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 ne adapt\u0103m cerin\u021belor societ\u0103\u021bii av\u00e2nd drept priorit\u0103\u021bi \u0219i dorin\u021bele (cerin\u021bele?) noastre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poate c\u0103 totul are leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu faptul c\u0103 suntem at\u00e2t de obosi\u021bi de agita\u021bia vie\u021bii cotidiene \u00eenc\u00e2t este mai u\u0219or s\u0103 ne conform\u0103m unor situa\u021bii dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 le model\u0103m conform dorin\u021belor noastre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau consider\u0103m c\u0103 este mai important\u0103 imaginea (modul cum suntem v\u0103zu\u021bi) \u00een societate dec\u00e2t ce ne dorim noi (ne punem pe ultimul loc \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103…) \u0219i facem ce se a\u0219teapt\u0103  de la noi, ce se dore\u0219te de la noi, nu ceea ce am vrea s\u0103 facem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau nu \u0219tim s\u0103 lupt\u0103m (poate este mult spus lupt\u0103, dar, uneori, poate termenul nu este at\u00e2t de exagerat pe c\u00e2t pare) pentru ce vrem \u0219i ced\u0103m \u00een favoarea altora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oricum ar fi, poate ar trebui s\u0103 analiz\u0103m (mai ales c\u00e2nd suntem tri\u0219ti, frustra\u021bi, sup\u0103ra\u021bi, ne\u00eemplini\u021bi, neferici\u021bi) ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 cu via\u021ba noastr\u0103 \u0219i dac\u0103 nu cumva suntem ni\u0219te personaje secundare (figuran\u021bi?) \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103, \u00een loc s\u0103 de\u021binem rolul principal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, este obositor s\u0103 de\u021bii permanent controlul asupra lucrurilor care se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een jurul t\u0103u, este obositor s\u0103 tot demonstrezi (dovede\u0219ti) ceva, dar, pe de alt\u0103 parte este \u0219i extrem de satisf\u0103c\u0103tor atunci c\u00e2nd ai timp pentru tine, c\u00e2nd reu\u0219e\u0219ti acolo unde nu credeai c\u0103 vei ajunge \u0219i c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti personajul principal \u00een propria via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, este complicat s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi asumi r\u0103spunderea pentru lucrurile pe care le faci (uneori bune, alteori mai pu\u021bin bune), dar acest lucru te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 cre\u0219ti, s\u0103 te dezvol\u021bi, s\u0103 te maturizezi \u0219i s\u0103 devii un om mai bun.  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00cen societatea de ast\u0103zi, sim\u021bim nevoia s\u0103 trecem prin anumite etape \u0219i s\u0103 ne valid\u0103m ca persoane. De multe ori, aceste lucruri \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103im altfel dec\u00e2t ne-am dori (ne-ar …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3753"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3753"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3753\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3754,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3753\/revisions\/3754"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3753"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3753"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3753"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}