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Oamenii au senza\u021bia c\u0103 pot controla tot ce li se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u0219i atunci c\u00e2n lucrurile nu ies a\u0219a cum ei se a\u0219teptau, a\u0219a cum credeau, a\u0219a cum visau sau a\u0219a cum voiau, se streseaz\u0103, se sup\u0103r\u0103, se enerveaz\u0103 \u0219i g\u0103sesc motive de ceart\u0103, de tot felul de conflicte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Adev\u0103rul este c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fi trecut prin multe ca s\u0103 realizezi c\u0103 nu totul este la dispozi\u021bia ta. Sau c\u0103 nu tu e\u0219ti centrul universului, Sau c\u0103 lumea nu graviteaz\u0103 \u00een jurul t\u0103u. Dar \u00ee\u021bi trebuie \u0219i mai mult\u0103 experien\u021b\u0103 (\u0219i r\u0103bdare, a\u0219 spune eu) pentru a accepta acest adev\u0103r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cen ultimul timp, am v\u0103zut mul\u0219i oameni sup\u0103ra\u021bi, nervo\u0219i, frustra\u021bi, tri\u0219i pentru c\u0103 li se \u00eent\u00e2mplau lucruri mai pu\u021bin pl\u0103cute. Problema era c\u0103 acele lucruri nep\u0103cute oricum s-ar fi \u00eent\u00e2mplat, mai devreme sau mai t\u00e2rziu, \u00eentr-o form\u0103 sau alta oricum ar fi devenit realitate. Pur \u0219i simplu nu st\u0103tea \u00een puterea oamenilor respectivi s\u0103 schimbe ceva. \u0219i, de\u0219i \u00eencercam s\u0103 le explic c\u0103 situa\u021bia \u00een care se aflau nu era vreo consecin\u021b\u0103 a ac\u021biunilor sau faptelor lor, oamenii nu voiau s\u0103 m\u0103 asculte. Continuau s\u0103 fie sup\u0103ra\u021bi, tri\u0219ti, nervo\u0219i \u0219i c\u0103utau un vinovat pentru ceea ce li se \u00eent\u00e2mpla, de\u0219i nu exista a\u0219a ceva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oamenii au nevoie s\u0103 dea vina pe cineva, atunci c\u00e2nd li se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva r\u0103u. Au nevoie s\u0103 se certe cu cineva \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu ce li se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103. Au nevoie s\u0103 urasc\u0103 pe cineva (unii chiar ajung la astfel de sentimente extreme) pentru a face fa\u021b\u0103 situa\u021biei respective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Doar c\u0103, de multe ori, exagerau. De multe ori ni se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 lucruri mai pu\u021bin pl\u0103cute pentru c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple, nu pentru c\u0103 a f\u0103cut cineva ceva (indiferent dac\u0103 sunt al\u021bii sau noi \u00een\u0219ine).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oamenilor le este greu s\u0103 accepte \u0219i s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 nu pot controla totul, c\u0103 nu pot dirija lucrurile, al\u021bi oameni \u0219i situa\u021biile a\u0219a cum vor (de\u0219i filmele \u0219i serialel de azi sunt pline de tot felul de personaje mai iste\u021be sau mai pu\u021bin iste\u021be, dar care reu\u0219esc, cumva, s\u0103 ob\u021bin\u0103 ce \u0103\u0219i doresc \u0219i ne stabilesc ni\u0219te standard c\u0103rora trebuie s\u0103 corespundem \u0219i noi).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
De\u0219i ar avea o via\u021b\u0103 mai u\u0219oar\u0103 dac\u0103 ar accepta \u0219i ar \u00een\u021belege c\u0103 via\u021ba are ritmul ei \u0219i are \u0219i sensul ei, de multe ori, v\u0103d oameni lupt\u00e2ndu-se cu lucruri pe care nu le pot \u00eenvinge \u0219i cu situa\u021bii pe care nu le pot schimba, dar se a\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103 ias\u0103 a\u0219a cum vor ei. Iar c\u00e2nd sunt izbi\u021bi de cruda realitate, ajung depresivi, ajung s\u0103 fug\u0103 de realitate sau prefer\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 \u00een lumea lor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Oamenii au senza\u021bia c\u0103 pot controla tot ce li se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u0219i atunci c\u00e2n lucrurile nu ies a\u0219a cum ei se a\u0219teptau, a\u0219a cum credeau, a\u0219a cum visau sau a\u0219a …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2529"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2529"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2529\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2530,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2529\/revisions\/2530"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2529"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2529"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2529"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}