{"id":2030,"date":"2023-12-28T19:09:20","date_gmt":"2023-12-28T17:09:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=2030"},"modified":"2023-12-28T19:09:20","modified_gmt":"2023-12-28T17:09:20","slug":"viata-este-un-permanent-exercitiu-de-uitare-si-iertare-2023","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=2030","title":{"rendered":"Via\u021ba este un permanent exerci\u021biu de uitare \u0219i iertare – 2023"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Am scris \u00een iulie 2022 (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1071<\/a>) despre aceast\u0103 expresie pe care am g\u0103sit-o \u00eentr- carte \u0219i despre ce credeam atunci despre ea. Dar, cumva, azi simt c\u0103 a mai r\u0103mas ceva de zis \u0219i despre uitare \u0219i despre iertare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cred c\u0103 ne este greu tuturor s\u0103 iert\u0103m oamenii din jurul nostru, pe cei care ne cunosc cel mai bine \u0219i care reu\u0219esc s\u0103 ne r\u0103neasc\u0103 cel mai mult. Pentru c\u0103 ne dorim de la ei s\u0103 ne sprijine, s\u0103 ne fie al\u0103turi, s\u0103 ne sus\u021bin\u0103, iar, atunci c\u00e2nd nu fac lucrurile pe care le a\u0219tept\u0103m de la ei (sau fac opusu\u0219 acestor lucruri) suntem dezam\u0103gi\u021bi, tri\u0219ti \u0219i nu \u0219tim cum s\u0103 facem fa\u021b\u0103 situa\u021biilor respective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unii dintre noi reu\u0219esc s\u0103 \u00eei ierte pe cei care \u00eei r\u0103nesc, al\u021bii \u00eens\u0103 nu g\u0103sesc \u00een ei putere (da, este nevoie de putere pentru a ierta pe cineva a\u0219a cum am scris \u00een articolul din octombrie 2023 https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1909<\/a>) pentru a face acest lucru \u0219i, din acest motiv, via\u021ba lor continu\u0103 s\u0103 fie trist\u0103 \u0219i ur\u00e2t\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am aflat greu \u0219i t\u00e2rziu ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 a ierta \u0219i \u00eemi pare r\u0103u c\u0103 mi-a luat at\u00e2t de mult timp s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg c\u0103 via\u021ba este mai u\u0219oar\u0103, mai simpl\u0103 \u0219i mai frumoas\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd g\u0103sim \u00een noi putere s\u0103 iert\u0103m (pe al\u021bii sau chiar pe noi \u00een\u0219ine). Ne trebuie mult\u0103 \u00eencredere \u00een noi \u0219i mai trebuie s\u0103 realiz\u0103m c\u0103 nu de\u021binem controlul complet asupra vie\u021bii noastre, ci mai exist\u0103 factori care ne pot influen\u021ba, \u00een mic\u0103 m\u0103sur\u0103 sau \u00een mare m\u0103sur\u0103, cursul vie\u021bii. Este greu s\u0103 accept\u0103m aceste lucruri, dar, dac\u0103 reu\u0219im s\u0103 facem acest lucru, vom avea o via\u021b\u0103 mai u\u0219oar\u0103 \u0219i nu vom mai fi plini de r\u0103utate, ranchiun\u0103, invidie, sup\u0103rare. Vom reu\u0219i s\u0103 tr\u0103im pentru noi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ca s\u0103 ne bucur\u0103m de via\u021b\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103 uit\u0103m \u0219i s\u0103 iert\u0103m. Doar c\u0103 a ierta este mai u\u0219or pentru unii \u0219i mai greu pentru al\u021bii. Nu to\u021bi avem curajul s\u0103 ne confrunt\u0103m cu situa\u021biile mai pu\u021bin pl\u0103cute, s\u0103 le analiz\u0103m \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem ceva din toate lec\u021biile pe care ni le ofer\u0103 via\u021ba. Pare mai u\u0219or s\u0103 str\u00e2ngem \u00een noi energie negativ\u0103, s\u0103 ne rev\u0103rs\u0103m durerea \u0219i nervii pe to\u021bi oamenii din jurul nostru, de\u0219i nu sunt ei vinova\u021bi pentru cum ne sim\u021bim noi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poate c\u0103 nu ar fi r\u0103u s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103 iert\u0103m oamenii care au gre\u0219it fa\u021b\u0103 de noi, atunci c\u00e2nd se c\u0103iesc sincer sau atunci c\u00e2nd au gre\u0219it, dar nu au realizat amploarea consecin\u021belor faptelor lor. Am putea tr\u0103i mai lini\u0219ti\u021bi \u0219i mai relaxa\u021bi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Am scris \u00een iulie 2022 (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1071) despre aceast\u0103 expresie pe care am g\u0103sit-o \u00eentr- carte \u0219i despre ce credeam atunci despre ea. Dar, cumva, azi simt c\u0103 a mai r\u0103mas …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[15],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2030"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2030"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2030\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2031,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2030\/revisions\/2031"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2030"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2030"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2030"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}