{"id":1916,"date":"2023-10-10T16:43:23","date_gmt":"2023-10-10T13:43:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1916"},"modified":"2023-10-10T16:43:24","modified_gmt":"2023-10-10T13:43:24","slug":"cum-se-transforma-iubirea-in-ura","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1916","title":{"rendered":"Cum se transform\u0103 iubirea \u00een ur\u0103?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cum ajung oameni care se iubesc at\u00e2t de tare \u00eenc\u00e2t nu pot tr\u0103i unul f\u0103r\u0103 cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 se urasc\u0103 sau s\u0103 nu mai suporte prezen\u021ba celuilalt?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 a iubi este diferit de a avea o rela\u021bie (<a href=\"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=356\">https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=356<\/a>), c\u0103 sunt oameni care, de\u0219i se iubesc, nu sunt compatibili unul cu cel\u0103lalt \u0219i oameni care, de\u0219i sunt doar prieteni (sunt lega\u021bi de sentimente puternice, dar nu acea iubire din c\u0103r\u021bi \u0219i filme), r\u0103m\u00e2n \u00eempreun\u0103 toat\u0103 via\u021ba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar nu \u00een\u021beleg cum (\u0219i c\u00e2nd) se termin\u0103 iubirea \u0219i cum (\u0219i c\u00e2nd) \u00eencepe ura. Cum ajung oameni care \u00eempart totul s\u0103 nu se mai poat\u0103 suporta unul pe cel\u0103lalt? Cum ajung oameni care spun c\u0103 cel\u0103lalt reprezint\u0103 jum\u0103tatea lor s\u0103 fac\u0103 r\u0103u jum\u0103t\u0103t\u021bii sale sau s\u0103 doreasc\u0103 r\u0103ul jum\u0103t\u0103\u021bii sale? (nu este ca \u0219i cum \u0219i-ar face r\u0103u sie\u0219i?)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i mai am \u00eentreb\u0103ri: unde se termin\u0103 iubirea \u0219i unde \u00eencepe ura? (de\u0219i, dac\u0103 este s\u0103 privim filmele din ziua de azi, \u00een unele din ele iubirea \u0219i ura se \u00eentrep\u0103trund \u0219i se presupun, cumva!?, una pe cealalt\u0103).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u00e2t de r\u0103i putem fi dac\u0103 ajungem s\u0103 ne dorim s\u0103 \u00eei facem s\u0103 sufere pe oamenii pe care i-am iubit la un moment dat? Ce probleme grave pot genera un astfel de comportament la cei implica\u021bi \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M\u0103 uit la oamenii din jurul meu care nu mai pot continua o rela\u021bie \u0219i ajung s\u0103 divor\u021beze. Oameni care s-au c\u0103s\u0103torit \u00een urm\u0103 cu ceva timp (mai mult au mai pu\u021bin) pentru c\u0103 \u0219i-au dorit s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 toat\u0103 via\u021ba \u00eempreun\u0103 (\u0219i au jurat c\u0103 vor face acest lucru), oameni care au construit lucruri \u00eempreun\u0103 (o rela\u021bie, o cas\u0103, o gospod\u0103rie etc). Oameni care acum v\u0103d \u00een cel\u0103lalt un du\u0219man \u0219i caut\u0103 modalit\u0103\u021bi de a-l r\u0103ni sau de a-l pune la punct.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Problema este c\u0103, de foarte multe ori, cei care au de suferit atunci c\u00e2nd adul\u021bii nu se mai \u00een\u021beleg sunt copiii. Ace\u0219tia ajung s\u0103 fie victime colaterale (sau chiar directe!) ale r\u0103zboiului dintre p\u0103rin\u021bi. \u0218i pl\u0103tesc prin suferin\u021b\u0103 doar pentru faptul c\u0103 adul\u021bii nu mai sunt \u00een stare s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103, dincolo de faptul c\u0103 ei nu mai pot (nu mai \u0219tiu sau nu mai vor) s\u0103 aib\u0103 o rela\u021bie, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 cei mici trebuie s\u0103 suporte consecin\u021bele. Dar deja am ajuns la subiectul unui alt articol.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu am reu\u0219it s\u0103 aflu cum ajung s\u0103 se urasc\u0103 oamenii care s-au iubit foarte mult. Este posibil s\u0103 fie vorba de orgolii r\u0103nite, de lucruri nel\u0103murite, de comunicare deficitar\u0103, de ne\u00een\u021belegeri, de diferen\u021be ap\u0103rute etc. Sau poate este ceva mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Cum ajung oameni care se iubesc at\u00e2t de tare \u00eenc\u00e2t nu pot tr\u0103i unul f\u0103r\u0103 cel\u0103lalt s\u0103 se urasc\u0103 sau s\u0103 nu mai suporte prezen\u021ba celuilalt? Am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 a &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1916"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1916"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1916\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1917,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1916\/revisions\/1917"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1916"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1916"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1916"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}