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Am scris \u00een decembrie 2021 despre iertare (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=614<\/a>), iar \u00een ianuarie 2022 despre a ierta ca semn de sl\u0103biciune sau semn de putere (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=712)<\/a>., dar azi vreau s\u0103 scriu despre puterea de a ierta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Am ajuns s\u0103 fim at\u00e2t de \u00eencr\u00e2ncena\u021bi, at\u00e2t de obseda\u021bi de modalit\u0103\u021bi de a face repede bani, at\u00e2t de egoi\u0219ti, at\u00e2t de r\u0103i \u0219i de nesiguri, \u00eenc\u00e2t nu mai \u0219tim s\u0103 mai iert\u0103m. Nici pe ceilal\u021bi, nici pe noi \u00een\u0219ine. Nu mai \u0219tim s\u0103 accept\u0103m c\u0103 oamenii mai pot gre\u0219i (ne vedem undeva deasupra tuturor \u0219i ne place s\u0103 \u00eei privim de sus pe cei care gre\u0219esc, s\u0103 \u00eei trat\u0103m cu dispre\u021b \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eei judec\u0103m) \u00eenc\u00e2t nu mai \u0219tim (nu mai g\u0103sim calea, dac\u0103 am cunoscut-o vreodat\u0103) s\u0103 iert\u0103m. \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd nu mai suntem \u00een stare s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem c\u0103 gre\u0219eala face parte din via\u021ba noastr\u0103. Fie c\u0103 ne convine sau nu, fie c\u0103 accept\u0103m sau nu, fie c\u0103 realiz\u0103m consecin\u021bele gre\u0219elii respective sau nu, lucrul respectiv s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u0219i trebuie s\u0103 facem situa\u021biei generate de el.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Problema este c\u0103 \u0219tiu mul\u021bi oameni care nu recunosc c\u0103 au gre\u0219it. Nu pot, efectiv, s\u0103 fac\u0103 acest lucru. Se ascund sau ascund gre\u0219eala sau caut\u0103 (\u0219i, de cele mai multe ori g\u0103sesc) un vinovat pentru gre\u0219eala lor. Ace\u0219ti oameni nu sunt \u00een stare s\u0103 treac\u0103 peste gre\u0219eala lor, care \u00eei b\u00e2ntuie perioade lungi de timp, nu sunt \u00een stare s\u0103 accepte ce au f\u0103cut \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencerce s\u0103 schimbe ceva pentru a nu se repeta ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat sau pentru a repara r\u0103ul f\u0103cut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pe de alt\u0103 parte, exist\u0103 \u0219i oameni care accept\u0103 c\u0103 au gre\u0219it (\u0219i c\u0103 \u0219i al\u021bii pot gre\u0219i, la fel ca ei), care \u00een\u021beleg ce au f\u0103cut (\u0219i motivele din spatele gestului respectiv), care \u00ee\u0219i asum\u0103 consecin\u021bele faptelor lor. Oameni care realizeaz\u0103 c\u0103 au puterea de a face ceva pentru a \u00eendrepta consecin\u021bele gre\u0219elii lor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ace\u0219ti oameni g\u0103sesc \u00een ei, la un moment dat, puterea de a ierta pe al\u021bii care i-au r\u0103nit sau le-au provocat neajunsuri (\u0219i chiar puterea de a se ierta pe ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i). Iar puterea de a ierta \u00eei ajut\u0103 pe oameni s\u0103 aib\u0103 o via\u021b\u0103 mai bun\u0103, s\u0103 fie mai \u00eemp\u0103ca\u021bi cu ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i, s\u0103 nu mai fie at\u00e2t de sup\u0103ra\u021bi pe via\u021b\u0103, s\u0103 nu mai fi tri\u0219ti, s\u0103 nu mai fie \u00eencr\u00e2ncena\u021bi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Cred c\u0103 puterea de a ierta ne elibereaz\u0103 de toate lucrurile mai pu\u021bin bune pe care le adun\u0103m \u00een noi sub influen\u021ba societ\u0103\u021bii moderne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Este adev\u0103rat c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 ne dorim s\u0103 iert\u0103m, s\u0103 vrem s\u0103 sc\u0103p\u0103m de povara care ne apas\u0103 (sup\u0103rare, furie etc), s\u0103 avem bun\u0103voin\u021b\u0103 \u00een acest sens, s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 \u00eel \u00een\u021belegem \u0219i pe cel care a gre\u0219it (\u0219i care sunt circumstan\u021bele \u00een care a gre\u0219it), dar dac\u0103 am reu\u0219i s\u0103 facem toate aceste lucruri am fi mai lini\u0219ti\u021bi, mai relaxa\u021bi, mai bl\u00e2nzi, mai calmi. Mai ferici\u021bi. Depinde doar de noi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Am scris \u00een decembrie 2021 despre iertare (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=614), iar \u00een ianuarie 2022 despre a ierta ca semn de sl\u0103biciune sau semn de putere (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=712)., dar azi vreau s\u0103 scriu despre …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1909"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1909"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1909\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2029,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1909\/revisions\/2029"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1909"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1909"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1909"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}