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Am observat c\u0103, primul instinct atunci c\u00e2nd se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva ce nu \u00een\u021belegem \u00een jurul nostru, este s\u0103 ne temem. Se spune c\u0103 prima reac\u021bie \u00een fa\u021ba provoc\u0103rii sau necunoscutului este fuga.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Toat\u0103 via\u021ba ni se spune (suntem \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi) s\u0103 ne temem de necunoscut sau s\u0103 fim aten\u021bi la toate lucrurile rele din lume.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Este de \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 cei care ne iubesc \u0219i ne educ\u0103 ne spun, pentru protec\u021bia noastr\u0103, care sunt lucrurile de care s\u0103 ne ferim sau care ne-ar putea face s\u0103 suferim \u00een vreun fel. Sunt sigur\u0103 c\u0103 ei sunt bine inten\u021biona\u021bi, c\u0103 vor s\u0103 nu experiment\u0103m \u0219i noi lucrurile mai pu\u021bin pl\u0103cute pe care ei le-au suportat de-a lungul vie\u021bii, doar c\u0103 mesajul lor ne face s\u0103 privim cu suspiciune (sau chiar cu team\u0103) lucrurile pe care nu le \u00een\u021belegem, pe care nu le cunoa\u0219tem sau care ne iau pe nepreg\u0103tite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0218i nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 este neap\u0103rat un lucru bun. Pentru c\u0103 ni se ia \u0219ansa de a experimenta lucruri care uneori (este adev\u0103rat) sunt nepl\u0103cute, dar, alteori, pot fi pl\u0103cute sau ne pot ajuta s\u0103 cunoa\u0219tem \u0219i s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem mai bine oamenii din jurul nostru, lumea, pe noi \u00een\u0219ine sau via\u021ba \u00een general.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Este ca \u0219i cum am tr\u0103i via\u021ba altcuiva, de team\u0103 s\u0103 nu suferim sau s\u0103 nu ne sim\u021bim r\u0103u. \u0218i cred c\u0103 suntem datori fa\u021b\u0103 de noi \u00een\u0219ine s\u0103 ne tr\u0103im propria via\u021b\u0103. S\u0103 lu\u0103m propriile decizii, s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m din experien\u021bele frumoase (dar \u0219i din cele mai pu\u021bin frumoase), s\u0103 ne asum\u0103m r\u0103spunderea pentru ceea ce facem, s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103 recunoa\u0219tem c\u00e2nd gre\u0219im \u0219i s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem consecin\u021bele gre\u0219elilor noastre, s\u0103 ne iert\u0103m pentru gre\u0219eli (dup\u0103 ce \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 remediem efectele negative ale acestora) \u0219i, astfel, s\u0103 avem propriile experien\u021be, propriile momente pl\u0103cute sau mai pu\u021bin pl\u0103cute, propriile reu\u0219ite \u0219i e\u0219ecuri. Cu alte cuvinte propria via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Am impresia c\u0103 ni se inoculeaz\u0103 teama de a tr\u0103i. Adic\u0103 teama de a lua decizii \u00een privin\u021ba direc\u021biei vie\u021bii noastre (s\u0103 nu fim prea \u00eendr\u0103zne\u021bi pentru c\u0103 putem pierde tot ce avem), teama de a gre\u0219i (suntem \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi c\u0103 nu avem voie s\u0103 gre\u0219im), teama de lucrurile pe care nu le putem controla, dar ne pot afecta calitatea vie\u021bii (exemple: s\u0103n\u0103tate, cutremure, dezastre cauzate de condi\u021bii meteorologice etc), teama de sunete puternice sau de lini\u0219te morm\u00e2ntal\u0103 etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Iar efectul direct al acestui tip de a\u0219a-zis \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m\u00e2nt (educa\u021bie, dac\u0103 vre\u021bi un termen similar) este lipsa de \u00eencredere \u00een sine a celui care ar trebui protejat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Poate c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eei \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m pe cei mici s\u0103 fie mai hot\u0103r\u00e2\u021bi, mai siguri pe ei, s\u0103 r\u0103spund\u0103 provoc\u0103rilor v\u00e2rstei lor \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eei l\u0103s\u0103m s\u0103 se ridice singuri atunci c\u00e2nd cad \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencerce s\u0103 fac\u0103 acele lucruri pe care doresc s\u0103 le fac\u0103, chiar dac\u0103 punerea \u00een aplicare \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ar putea avea de suferit \u00een vreun fel. Doar \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u00e2nd singuri se pot dezvolta normal \u0219i pot deveni persoane mature care \u0219tiu ce vor de la ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i, de la ceilal\u021bi, de la lume \u0219i de la via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Am observat c\u0103, primul instinct atunci c\u00e2nd se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceva ce nu \u00een\u021belegem \u00een jurul nostru, este s\u0103 ne temem. Se spune c\u0103 prima reac\u021bie \u00een fa\u021ba provoc\u0103rii sau necunoscutului …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1802"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1802"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1802\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1803,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1802\/revisions\/1803"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1802"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1802"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1802"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}