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Se spune c\u0103 iubirea ne face mai buni, c\u0103 ne \u00eembog\u0103\u021be\u0219te via\u021ba, c\u0103 ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 ne cunoa\u0219tem mai bine \u0219i s\u0103 cunoa\u0219tem mai bine lumea \u00een are tr\u0103im\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar, uneori (sau doar unora dintre noi li se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 acest lucru?), iubirea este egoist\u0103. Ca \u0219i cum doar acest sentiment este important, ca \u0219i cum doar el conteaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar, analiz\u00e2nd lucrurile, am \u00eenceput s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentreb dac\u0103 nu cumva oamenii sunt egoi\u0219ti \u0219i, \u00een numele iubirii, fac (sau spun) lucruri \u00een propriul folos, reu\u0219ind s\u0103 lase impresia c\u0103 au ac\u021bionat sub imperiul sentimentelor? \u0218i, astfel, oamenii ca mine ajung s\u0103 se \u00eentrebe dac\u0103 iubirea este egoist\u0103 sau nu?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cred c\u0103, fiecare dintre noi are propria p\u0103rere despre iubire, propriile a\u0219tept\u0103ri, iluzii, speran\u021be \u0219i toate acestea se reflect\u0103 \u00een modul \u00een care iubesc pe cineva sau modul \u00een care se comport\u0103 \u00een astfel de momente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Atunci c\u00e2nd iubim, vrem s\u0103 fim cei mai importan\u021bi \u00een via\u021ba persoanei iubite \u0219i ne a\u0219tept\u0103m s\u0103 fim o prioritate pentru ea. Doar c\u0103, \u00een lumea \u00een care tr\u0103im, mai exist\u0103 probleme sau lucruri de rezolvat \u0219i nu se poate respira permanent doar iubire. \u0218i nu vorbesc despre gelozie, \u00een acest articol. Ci despre posesivitatea unora dintre oameni atunci c\u00e2nd iubesc. Despre nevoia lor permanent\u0103 de a fi \u00eempreun\u0103 cu persoana respectiv\u0103, de a fi permanent \u00een mintea persoanei respective \u0219i de a neglija orice altceva (sau pe altcineva) doar pentru a fi \u00eempreun\u0103 cu cel\/cea pe care \u00eel\/o iubesc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00centreb\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 dac\u0103 dragostea este egoista, am ajuns s\u0103 aflu c\u0103, \u00een realitate, oamenii sunt egoi\u0219ti \u0219i pun pe seama iubirii comportamentele lor exagerate, ezitante, ne\u00een\u021belese, distructive etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Este foarte u\u0219or s\u0103 ne ascundem \u00een spatele unui sentiment at\u00e2t de puternic (at\u00e2t de prezentat \u00een c\u0103r\u021bi \u0219i filme, at\u00eet de discutat \u0219i at\u00e2t de controversat) \u0219i s\u0103 justific\u0103m absolut orice, doar sus\u021bin\u00e2nd c\u0103 iubim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Am mai scris despre faptul c\u0103 nu suntem perfec\u021bi (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/2023\/03\/31\/suntem-unici-pentru-ca-suntem-imperfecti\/<\/a>) sau despre faptul c\u0103 nu putem fi buni la toate (https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/2023\/07\/17\/despre-presiunea-de-a-fi-buni-la-toate\/<\/a>) \u0219i \u00een\u021beleg c\u0103 fiecare dintre noi vede iubirea \u00een felul lui.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unii au o imagine ideal\u0103 asupra iubirii \u0219i c\u00e2nd ajung s\u0103 iubeasc\u0103 afl\u0103 \u0219i partea real\u0103 a iubirii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Al\u021bii sunt foarte reali\u0219ti \u0219i materiali\u0219ti \u0219i a\u0219teapt\u0103 doar s\u0103 c\u00e2\u0219tige, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u0219i pierd capul dup\u0103 o alt\u0103 persoan\u0103 \u0219i afl\u0103 c\u0103 iubirea nu este ceva material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unii a\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lneasc\u0103 iubirea vie\u021bii lor (se p\u0103streaz\u0103 pentru iubirea vie\u021bii lor), \u00een timp ce al\u021bii tr\u0103iesc fiecare sentiment la maxim, profit\u00e2nd de fiecare moment frumos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unii a\u0219teapt\u0103 ner\u0103bd\u0103tori s\u0103 iubeasc\u0103, \u00een timp ce al\u021bii se tem de dragoste \u0219i de a fi \u00eendr\u0103gostit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unii, dezam\u0103gi\u021bi de o experien\u021b\u0103 anterioar\u0103 mai pu\u021bin pl\u0103cut\u0103, nu mai vor s\u0103 iubeasc\u0103 \u0219i ajung s\u0103 se \u00eendr\u0103gosteasc\u0103 mai puternic dec\u00e2t anterior, iar al\u021bii, care nu a\u0219teapt\u0103 iubirea, sunt lua\u021bi pe nepreg\u0103tite c\u00e2nd \u00eencep s\u0103 aib\u0103 sentimente pentru oameni afla\u021bi \u00een jurul lor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Se spune c\u0103 iubirea ne face mai buni, c\u0103 ne \u00eembog\u0103\u021be\u0219te via\u021ba, c\u0103 ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 ne cunoa\u0219tem mai bine \u0219i s\u0103 cunoa\u0219tem mai bine lumea \u00een are tr\u0103im\u2026 Dar, …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1800"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1800"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1800\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1801,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1800\/revisions\/1801"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1800"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1800"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1800"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}