{"id":1722,"date":"2023-06-09T13:44:29","date_gmt":"2023-06-09T10:44:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1722"},"modified":"2023-06-09T13:44:30","modified_gmt":"2023-06-09T10:44:30","slug":"despre-dorinta-noastra-permanenta-de-a-avea-altceva-fara-sa-apreciem-ce-avem-deja","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1722","title":{"rendered":"Despre dorin\u021ba noastr\u0103 permanent\u0103 de a avea altceva, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 apreciem ce avem deja"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tr\u0103im vremuri \u00een care suntem \u00eempin\u0219i s\u0103 ne dep\u0103\u0219im limitele, s\u0103 ie\u0219im din zona de confort, s\u0103 ne dezvolt\u0103m \u00een toate modurile posibile. \u00cen principiu, este un lucru bun, ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 evolu\u0103m \u0219i s\u0103 descoperim lucruri noi despre via\u021b\u0103, despre ceilal\u021bi \u0219i chiar despre propria persoan\u0103. Efectul secundar al acestui lucru este faptul c\u0103 permanent vrem mai mult, ne dorim altceva \u0219i nu mai \u0219tim s\u0103 vedem \u0219i s\u0103 apreciem ceea ce avem. Nu mai \u0219tim s\u0103 ne bucur\u0103m de fiecare lucru nou din via\u021ba noastr\u0103 \u0219i suntem permanent nemul\u021bumi\u021bi, frustra\u021bi, aten\u021bi la ce au al\u021bii (\u0219i ne-am dori \u0219i noi s\u0103 avem) \u0219i pierdem momente importante din via\u021ba noastr\u0103 pentru c\u0103 nu mai vedem ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een jurul nostru. E ca \u0219i cum am privi cum via\u021ba noastr\u0103 trece pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 noi. Sau ca \u0219i cum am privi un film \u00een care din personaj principal devenim personaj secundar (sau figurant).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Este normal s\u0103 ne dorim s\u0103 avem mai mult, s\u0103 ne fie mai bine \u0219i nou\u0103 \u0219i celor dragi. Dar unde se opre\u0219te dorin\u021ba \u0219i unde \u00eencepe obsesia? Atunci c\u00e2nd dorin\u021ba de a avea lucruri afecteaz\u0103 via\u021ba de familie sau c\u00e2nd pre\u021bu\u0219 pl\u0103tit pentru a vea ce ne dorim \u00eenseamn\u0103 un sacrificiu pentru noi, nu cumva este vorba despre o obsesie?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dic\u021bionarul Explicativ al Limbii Rom\u00e2ne define\u0219te termenul de obsesie drept<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>tulburare a voin\u021bei care se manifest\u0103 prin idei fixe, prin dorin\u021ba irezistibil\u0103 de a face un act determinat, bolnavul fiind con\u0219tient de caracterul anormal al ac\u021biunilor sale;<\/li><li>imagine sau idee neadecvat\u0103 care revine ne\u00eencetat \u00een c\u00e2mpul con\u0219tiin\u021bei, st\u0103ruitor \u0219i anormal; preocupare chinuitoare.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Am scris \u00een 2021 despre percep\u021bia modern\u0103 asupra normalului sau a lucrurilor normale (<a href=\"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/2021\/08\/26\/despre-ce-e-normal\/\">https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/2021\/08\/26\/despre-ce-e-normal\/<\/a>), a\u0219a c\u0103 nu voi insista pe acest subiect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar mi se pare c\u0103 dorin\u021ba noastr\u0103 permanent\u0103 de a avea altceva este o preocupare chinuitoare, a\u0219a c\u0103 o putem \u00eencadra la obsesii.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pentru unii, dorin\u021ba de a avea altceva le conduce via\u021ba \u0219i fac orice pentru a ob\u021bine ceea ce \u00ee\u0219i doresc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Al\u021bii \u00eens\u0103, \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 (unii chiar \u0219tiu instinctiv) c\u00e2nd au \u00een via\u021ba lor lucrurile \u0219i oamenii potrivi\u021bi \u0219i se opresc din a c\u0103uta altceva, reu\u0219ind astfel s\u0103 fie ferici\u021bi (pentru c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i dau singuri voie s\u0103 fie ferici\u021bi).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Problema este c\u0103 cei tineri cresc (se dezvolt\u0103) \u00eentr-o lume \u00een care li se spune c\u0103 este normal s\u0103 fi nemul\u021bumit, frustrat, sup\u0103rat, iar ei vor tr\u0103i astfel, ne\u0219tiind c\u0103 le trebuie foarte pu\u021bine lucruri pentru a fi ferici\u021bi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tr\u0103im vremuri \u00een care suntem \u00eempin\u0219i s\u0103 ne dep\u0103\u0219im limitele, s\u0103 ie\u0219im din zona de confort, s\u0103 ne dezvolt\u0103m \u00een toate modurile posibile. \u00cen principiu, este un lucru bun, ne &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1722"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1722"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1722\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1723,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1722\/revisions\/1723"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1722"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1722"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1722"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}