{"id":1718,"date":"2023-06-07T18:02:33","date_gmt":"2023-06-07T15:02:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1718"},"modified":"2023-06-07T18:02:34","modified_gmt":"2023-06-07T15:02:34","slug":"despre-iluzia-controlului-asupra-propriei-noastre-vieti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1718","title":{"rendered":"Despre iluzia controlului asupra propriei noastre vie\u021bi"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tr\u0103im o mare parte din via\u021b\u0103 cu impresia c\u0103 putem controla tot ce ni se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 sau vie\u021bile celor din jur \u0219i doar uneori realiz\u0103m c\u0103, de fapt, nu este a\u0219a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De\u0219i ne place s\u0103 credem c\u0103 doar noi putem influen\u021ba ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103, adev\u0103rul este c\u0103 sunt o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de factori care pot interveni f\u0103r\u0103 ca noi s\u0103 putem face ceva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i este dureros c\u00e2nd constat\u0103m c\u0103 nu de\u021binem controlul. Pentru c\u0103 am fost \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi c\u0103 doar noi decidem ce ni se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u0219i acest lucru ne-a dat senza\u021bia de putere asupra propriului destin. \u0218i ne \u00eemb\u0103t\u0103m cu aceast\u0103 putere, ne credem superiori, r\u00e2dem de cei care nu \u00ee\u0219i conduc propria via\u021b\u0103 (sau a\u0219a avem noi senza\u021bia c\u0103 stau lucrurile) \u0219i credem c\u0103 nimic (\u0219i nimeni) nu ne poate opri din drumul nostru c\u0103tre ceea ce ne dorim sau c\u0103 nimic (\u0219i nimeni) nu ne poate d\u0103r\u00e2ma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Este \u0219i frustrant c\u00e2nd realiz\u0103m c\u0103 nu de\u021binem controlul complet asupra vie\u021bii noastre. Avem tendin\u021ba s\u0103 nu accept\u0103m acest adev\u0103r \u0219i vrem s\u0103 ne lupt\u0103m cu to\u021bi cei care ne spun altceva dec\u00e2t ce vrem s\u0103 auzim sau cei care cred altceva dec\u00e2t noi. \u0218i nu este dec\u00e2t o risip\u0103 de energie, pentru c\u0103 aceast\u0103 lupt\u0103 este degeaba. Dup\u0103 ce ne vom lupta cu to\u021bi, vom ajunge la concluzia c\u0103 via\u021ba noastr\u0103 este condus\u0103 de noi, \u00een mare parte, dar mai sunt \u0219i al\u021bi factori de care trebuie s\u0103 \u021binem cont atunci c\u00e2nd lu\u0103m decizii importante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Este complicat s\u0103 accept\u0103m \u0219i s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem c\u0103 nu totul depinde de propria noastr\u0103 voin\u021b\u0103. Este foarte important c\u00e2t de tare ne dorim ceva \u0219i ce suntem dispu\u0219i s\u0103 facem pentru a avea ce ne dorim (sau pentru a ajunge unde voiam s\u0103 fim), dar trebuie s\u0103 avem \u00een vedere c\u0103 pot exista \u0219i lucruri care se pot \u00eent\u00e2mpla f\u0103r\u0103 ca noi s\u0103 le putem controla. Lucruri despre care nu \u0219tim sau care au leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu alte persoane dar, cumva, pot influen\u021ba drumul nostru c\u0103tre ce ne dorim, apoi mai sunt \u0219i problemele de s\u0103n\u0103tate care pot ap\u0103rea de nic\u0103ieri \u0219i pot fi u\u0219oare sau foarte grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ne place s\u0103 credem c\u0103 totul st\u0103 \u00een puterea noastr\u0103, dar avem depresii \u0219i deziluzii atunci c\u00e2nd lucrurile nu ies a\u0219a cum ne dorieam, a\u0219a cum ne a\u0219teptam, a\u0219a cum credeam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Iar, la v\u00e2rsta maturit\u0103\u021bii, ajungem s\u0103 accept\u0103m (dac\u0103 suntem destul de \u00een\u021belep\u021bi) c\u0103 via\u021ba noastr\u0103 depinde \u0219i de alte lucruri (sau alte persoane) dec\u00e2t noi, iar c\u00e2nd reu\u0219im s\u0103 accept\u0103m acest lucru via\u021ba noastr\u0103 va deveni mai bun\u0103 \u0219i mai frumoas\u0103. Depinde doar de noi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tr\u0103im o mare parte din via\u021b\u0103 cu impresia c\u0103 putem controla tot ce ni se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 sau vie\u021bile celor din jur \u0219i doar uneori realiz\u0103m c\u0103, de fapt, nu este &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1718"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1718"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1718\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1719,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1718\/revisions\/1719"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1718"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1718"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1718"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}