{"id":1687,"date":"2023-05-19T14:01:47","date_gmt":"2023-05-19T11:01:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1687"},"modified":"2023-05-19T14:01:47","modified_gmt":"2023-05-19T11:01:47","slug":"stim-sa-ne-dam-timp-sa-ne-vindecam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1687","title":{"rendered":"\u0218tim s\u0103 ne d\u0103m timp s\u0103 ne vindec\u0103m?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dup\u0103 ce trecem prin momente grele, \u0219tim s\u0103 ne d\u0103m timp s\u0103 ne vindec\u0103m? Nu doar s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, ci s\u0103 l\u0103s\u0103m timpul s\u0103 ne cicatrizeze rana?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De obicei, nu prea ne d\u0103m timp pentru noi \u00een\u0219ine. Consider\u0103m c\u0103 avem lucruri mult mai importante de f\u0103cut, de sim\u021bit, de realizat, de v\u0103zut, de auzit \u0219i consider\u0103m c\u0103 nu avem nevoie de timp pentru a ne vindeca. Credem c\u0103 este important s\u0103 le ar\u0103t\u0103m celorlal\u021bi c\u0103 ne-am vindecat \u0219i ajungem s\u0103 ne convingem, chiar \u0219i pe noi \u00een\u0219ine, c\u0103 ne-am vindecat, dar, la un moment dat, reac\u021bia noastr\u0103 \u00eentr-o anumit\u0103 situa\u021bie ulterioar\u0103 ne dovede\u0219te c\u0103 ne-am \u00een\u0219elat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu ne d\u0103m timp s\u0103 ne vindec\u0103m pentru c\u0103, de cele mai multe ori, consider\u0103m c\u0103 nu avem nevoie de acest timp. Fie pentru c\u0103 avem senza\u021bia c\u0103 suntem puternici \u0219i nu ne d\u0103r\u00e2m\u0103 nimic, fie pentru c\u0103 ajungem s\u0103 credem (sau ne convingem singuri) c\u0103 situa\u021bia care ne-a afectat este prea pu\u021bin important\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu este de ajuns doar s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem cum ne-a afectat ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, s\u0103 ne iert\u0103m pe noi (dac\u0103 am gre\u0219it cu ceva) sau s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 trecem peste situa\u021bia respectiv\u0103. Este nevoie de timp ca s\u0103 asimil\u0103m ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, s\u0103 accept\u0103m sentimentele noastre (de cele mai multe ori confuze) \u0219i s\u0103 ne l\u0103murim ce vrem s\u0103 facem mai departe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De cele mai multe ori, atunci c\u00e2nd suntem r\u0103ni\u021bi avem tendin\u021ba de a r\u0103ni \u0219i noi, la r\u00e2ndul nostru (probabil ca s\u0103 nu fim singurii care sufer\u0103). \u0218i, uneori, ne orient\u0103m aceast\u0103 dorin\u021b\u0103 de a r\u0103ni spre persoane care nu ne-au r\u0103nit sau nu au nicio leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu situa\u021bia care ne-a afectat. A\u0219a c\u0103, poate ar fi mai bine, s\u0103 nu reac\u021bion\u0103m exagerat p\u00e2n\u0103 nu \u00een\u021belegem ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat sau p\u00e2n\u0103 nu ne l\u0103murim sentimentele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pentru c\u0103 nu \u00een\u021belegem c\u0103 putem fi afecta\u021bi de multe lucruri care se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een jurul nostru sau de mul\u021bi oameni, trat\u0103m situa\u021biile superficial \u0219i, uneori, nu realiz\u0103m c\u0103 suferim dec\u00e2t atunci c\u00e2nd facem lucruri pe care, \u00een mod normal, nu le-am face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u0219a c\u0103, poate ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 ne d\u0103m timp s\u0103 ne vindec\u0103m atunci c\u00e2nd suntem r\u0103ni\u021bi, atunci c\u00e2nd pierdem ceva important sau atunci c\u00e2nd avem un e\u0219ec. Nu ar trebui s\u0103 ne vedem ca pe ni\u0219te st\u00e2nci de care se izbesc lucruri care nu le afecteaz\u0103. Suntem, totu\u0219i, oameni. Avem tot felul de sentimente \u0219i pozitive \u0219i negative \u0219i este normal s\u0103 fim afecta\u021bi de ceea ce este important pentru noi. Dar este esen\u021bial s\u0103 reu\u0219im s\u0103 trecem peste r\u0103ni \u0219i s\u0103 ne d\u0103m timp s\u0103 ne vindec\u0103m, pentru a ne putea continua via\u021ba \u00een coordonate normale.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dup\u0103 ce trecem prin momente grele, \u0219tim s\u0103 ne d\u0103m timp s\u0103 ne vindec\u0103m? Nu doar s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegem ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, ci s\u0103 l\u0103s\u0103m timpul s\u0103 ne cicatrizeze rana? 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