{"id":1578,"date":"2023-04-04T16:52:53","date_gmt":"2023-04-04T13:52:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1578"},"modified":"2023-04-06T17:07:01","modified_gmt":"2023-04-06T14:07:01","slug":"de-ce-negam-lucruri-evdente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/?p=1578","title":{"rendered":"De ce neg\u0103m lucruri evidente?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cred c\u0103 tuturor ni s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, la un moment dat, s\u0103 nu accept\u0103m, din diferite motive, un lucru evident \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 neg\u0103m ceea ce era foarte clar pentru ceilal\u021bi. \u0218i astfel s\u0103 ne plas\u0103m singuri \u00een situa\u021bii nepl\u0103cute (poate chiar jenante). \u0218i m\u0103 \u00eentreb de ce oamenii maturi ar face astfel de lucruri? Dac\u0103 la cei mici a\u0219 putea \u00een\u021belege nevoia lor de a construi via\u021ba sau situa\u021biile \u00een care se afl\u0103 a\u0219a cum vor ei sau a\u0219a cum cred ei, \u00een cazul celor maturi chiar nu am r\u0103spunsuri. Persoanele mature ar trebui s\u0103 fie con\u0219tiente de faptul c\u0103 nu pot controla tot ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een jurul lor \u0219i tot ce simt \u0219i c\u0103 exist\u0103 lucruri care au propria lor dezvoltare, a\u0219a cum exist\u0103 oameni care au propria lor voin\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i totu\u0219i: de ce oamenii neag\u0103 lucruri care celorlal\u021bi li se par evidente? Oare nu sunt \u00een stare s\u0103 vad\u0103 ce v\u0103d ceilal\u021bi (ceva sau cineva le limiteaz\u0103 vederea sau \u00een\u021belegerea lucrurilor aflate \u00een apropiere)? &nbsp;C\u00e2te din aceste lucruri sunt din sfera emo\u021bionalului \u0219i c\u00e2te din sfera psihologicului?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u00e2nd neg\u0103m lucruri, de cele mai multe ori este vorba de sentimente pe care nu vrem s\u0103 le accept\u0103m sau nu vrem s\u0103 le \u00een\u021belegem sau nu vrem s\u0103 le dezvolt\u0103m, pentru c\u0103 exista ceva \u00een noi care ori respinge ceea ce sim\u021bim ori nu \u0219tie cum s\u0103 gestioneze respectivele tr\u0103iri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dac\u0103 am reu\u0219i s\u0103 fim permanent \u00eemp\u0103ca\u021bi cu noi \u00een\u0219ine, dac\u0103 nu ne-am sim\u021bi vinova\u021bi pentru tot felul de lucruri (pe care le-am f\u0103cut sau pe care nu le-am f\u0103cut), dac\u0103 am fi echilibra\u021bi emo\u021bional \u0219i psihologic, dac\u0103 am fi \u00eemplini\u021bi \u0219i ferici\u021bi, poate c\u0103 nu am ajunge s\u0103 neg\u0103m lucruri evidente, dar a\u0219a\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cred c\u0103 sunt dou\u0103 situa\u021bii c\u00e2nd cineva neag\u0103 o situa\u021bie evident\u0103: ori chiar nu este con\u0219tient de ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u0219i are nevoie ca altcineva s\u0103 \u00eei dezv\u0103luie realitatea, ori este con\u0219tient de situa\u021bia clar\u0103 \u00een care se afl\u0103, dar nu este \u00een stare s\u0103 o accepte \u0219i s\u0103 o trateze ca pe ceva normal (din diferite motive, nu \u0219tie cum s\u0103 reac\u021bioneze \u0219i atunci prefer\u0103 s\u0103 nege, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 este necesar s\u0103 fac\u0103 ceva pentru a l\u0103muri respectiva circumstan\u021b\u0103).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cred c\u0103 este foarte mult de discutat pe aceast\u0103 tem\u0103, iar eu am atins doar o parte infim\u0103 a subiectului, doar c\u0103 am v\u0103zut din ce \u00een ce mai mul\u021bi oameni \u00een astfel de situa\u021bii \u0219i, uneori, nu este deloc pl\u0103cut, ba dimpotriv\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Poate c\u0103 ar trebui ca oamenii s\u0103 fie mai con\u0219tien\u021bi de ceea ce transmit celorlal\u021bi \u0219i de ceea ce vor s\u0103 transmit\u0103 celorlal\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencerce s\u0103 se \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 pe ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i \u00eenainte s\u0103 \u00eencerce s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 lumea sau s\u0103 cunoasc\u0103 lumea.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Cred c\u0103 tuturor ni s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, la un moment dat, s\u0103 nu accept\u0103m, din diferite motive, un lucru evident \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 neg\u0103m ceea ce era foarte clar pentru &#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1578"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1578"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1578\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1585,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1578\/revisions\/1585"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1578"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1578"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanitate.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1578"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}